It has come to my attention that I get too. much. email.
Not the onslaught of work-related messages – those require a whole other coping strategy to be covered in a separate blog post for some of you.
Let’s talk about the barrage of promotional or informational emails I willingly subscribed to over the years that are (I believe) multiplying amongst themselves the longer I leave them unopened.
My intentions were good, thinking, “I will give you my email address, and you shall give me a grand promotion and delightful inspirations with your beautiful informative or motivational emails!”
Sounds like a win-win. Until I did the same with an inordinate amount of individuals and institutions.
Eek! I did what any rational human would do in those conditions, I either stopped reading personal emails (sorry, friends!) or I mass deleted. I didn’t actually want to take the time to fix the problem by unsubscribing.
Until I had a few minutes of clarity and calm last week when it occurred to me that I could unsubscribe to just a few here and there and eventually cull my inbox down to a manageable amount of email that I wanted to read AND I decided I would be more selective about giving out the keys to my electronic mail kingdom. Let’s not repeat this nonsense in another five years, right?
And then, as I tend to do, I got to thinking.
Consider this tale of reaching email overload and the unsubscribe. Could it be a metaphor? You betcha!
How many times have we signed up or opted in for a conversation, friendship or even a relationship that we thought was mutually beneficial – it was so alluring at the get-go – to realize later that the fit just wasn’t right after a time.
Maybe you bought-in because you felt you belonged, or it provided validation, fun or connection.
Whatever your intention, it was real, and it is valid.
You felt you needed whatever you signed up for because you believed it would help you feel better, inspired, loved. Not a bad motivation, right?
We get stuck when the message is no longer suiting where we are, yet we continue to subscribe.
Perhaps the conversation is stale, or the values fueling the friendship no longer resonate with us. Perhaps that Facebook group doesn’t leave you feeling inspired, but deflated or tired.
We all grow and evolve at different rates. We change. Others change. When those rates of change aren’t the same, we’re no longer in sync. The benefit isn’t the same, or just isn’t there.
Once you realize there might be a dynamic off-kilter, it’s time to do something about it. You’re worth it.
If you have a sense you may want to unsubscribe to a few outdated conversations or groups, here are a few tips to get you started.
Practice awareness and mindfulness.
This means to simply take stock of how you feel when you’re a part of conversations, spending time with individuals and groups and engaging online. Do you feel uplifted, energized at your core? Inspired and at peace? Part of something that makes your soul come alive or at least helps you breathe easier?
Take note of how you feel.
Make it a point to spend time with those who lift you up into a higher, more fulfilling place. Those who don’t, well, see #3.
If you feel slimed, depressed or angry, pause. Realize how you’re feeling, accept that this environment or individual may not be a good fit. Then, minimize exposure to those conversations, groups or people. You can even mentally unsubscribe while in the middle of the conversation as you figure out a graceful, respectful exit.
You alone control how you spend your energy. Even if you have a full-time job, are retired or a student living at home, you still have the ability to control your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and actions.
Your mental and emotional energy is within your scope of influence and you can choose where to invest. I give you the permission to take control of how you devote your unique skills, talents and mental and emotional energy to making you feel healthy, happy and fulfilled.
Within you is where the magic happens. Where change occurs. If you want to see change in your life, your body, your job, your family, start with you. Thoughts. Beliefs. Attitudes. Actions.
Unsubscribe is a beautiful technique! I encourage you to unsubscribe to outdated ideas, conversations or friendships! The beauty, too, is you can always opt back in if the message or material becomes relevant again.
Share this message with any friend who might need help “Unsubscribing.” If you’re looking for help “Unsubscribing” in your life and not sure where to start, send us a message at Katherine@sproutandrosebud.com. Have it figured out? Share your tips with our community below! We grow stronger together!
Wishing you love, health and peace, my friends!